Es scheint nicht ungewöhnlich zu sein, dass einige Norweger geschieden sind und die Ehedauer bei etwa +5 Jahren liegt, und man fragt sich, was dazu führt, dass die Ehe an diesem Punkt Bestand hat oder endet.
Außerdem glaube ich, dass einige Norweger eine feste/langfristige Beziehung führen, aber nicht die Absicht haben, zu heiraten. Ich würde auch gerne von Ihren Gedanken hören, die hinter Ihrer Entscheidung stehen!
Quelle: https://www.statista.com/statistics/589072/divorces-by-duration-of-marriage-in-norway/
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Von Late-Chemistry8407
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Divorced after less than two years here. She thought it was a good idea to have sex with other people. It wasn’t.
Separate bedrooms 😅
been married for 16 years now, but been together for 20 years.
I have been in a relationship for about 6 years. We’ve talked about marriage and we’d definitely marry each other if we had to get married to someone, but we’re not the kind of people who have any sort of dream about a extraordinary wedding celebration or anything like that, and we’re not religious, so until now it’s just not been worth it in a way.
There’s quite a few situations where living together for two years (or having kids) puts you in the same position as a married couple and we have a contract for how the mortgage for our flat is set up, and a will, and otherwise we haven’t missed being married yet.
We’re having kids this year though, haven’t looked into if that would change anything yet.
My grandparents was married for 60 + years. My parents are married for 40. Me and all my siblings are married for 5 + years.
Imo, having good rolemodels do have an effect on your own marriage.
Things that is important: embrace your partner strengths. There are things I’m better at doing than my partner and vice versa.
Support your partner decision. It can be a lot of discussion beforehand, but when the decision has been made I support it 100 %.
The way you talk about your partner when they are not around.
Was married for 9 months, she thought it was a good idea to ‘culturally explore’ others. 🤷🏻♂️😂
Being in love and having separate bedrooms. Sharing interests and trusting each other implicitly.
I’ve been with my husband for about 10 years, first years non-committal but we always lived together. Married 8 years. I really don’t get the people who say that the “romantic love” fades away in time, it sure has not for us.
And it makes every day exciting.
At 5-9 years a lot of couples have young children. Which can be a very stressful time. (Source: I have 3 children.) My husband and I made it through that period with the marriage intact, but the lack of sleep, the lack of quality time together, and trying to juggle work and family life with toddlers can take a toll on you. But once you are through that period it does get better.
Been married for over twenty years. Not sure there are any secrets, but I’ll suggest the following. Marry someone who you love. Both of you need to be nice people who are willing to compromise and communicate, and at times prioritise the needs of the other person, though this should even out over the years. Don’t have sex with other people.
Im not married yet but been with my fiancè for almost 6 years now. 6 years where we have shared a 1 room appartement.
Its hard to say what the secret is, she is easy to love and makes me feel loved, i feel like a part of a team rather than just being a boyfriend. Yeah we argue and disagree on things, but we are also very aware of each others triggers and avoid those at all cost, neither of us wants to pick a fight and if things get heated, we cool down and discuss it as adults, instead of yelling at each other.
Maybe sharing a 1 room just forced us to learn to be best friends, it makes it hard to avoid each other so we have to take each other into consideration at all times. We are both very patient people and that helps a lot, she lets me be me and in return i make sure she gets to do what she wants to do as well.
In general i think what makes us work so well together is that we both wake up determined to fix, maintain and make each other happy. Its not my first relationship, but it is the first time ive felt like all my quirks is accepted, both the positive and negative ones.
I focus a lot on how i can be the best version of me, because she deserves the best version of me. This mindset has made it so easy to reflect on what actually matters to make the team work, and avoid fights that doesnt really matter. I want her to be happy, and in return she does what she can to keep me happy.
TLDR;
Make love not war. Put your partner first when you can. Mindset matters. Be patient, its not supposed to be easy always, a good relationship demands effort from both parties involved.
My advice- don’t get married. My partner and I have been together for 18 years, we have been engaged for 13 of those. We have two kids, a house and are quite settled down. We have ups and downs but rarely have huge arguments or disagree in a major way. We discuss big decisions and both put a lot of work into our family life. I think thats all you can really do. There’s no real rush for us to get married, I personally don’t see the point apart from legal reasons. Maybe we’ll marry on our 20th anniversary? Just for fun, lol.
I find marrying someone of the same gender worked wonders for me. 17 years in June of this year
I think it helps that we genuinely enjoy being in each others company and have fun together. We love and respect each other, and we have very similar core values, morals, and wishes for the future. But we’re different enough to keep things interesting. I also think luck might be part of it, I feel very lucky that we found each other and that he wanted to share his life with me. He has an amazing family on top of that, so that’s also a blessing.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not always easy. A healthy relationship only works if both want it, so honest and open communication and respect are important when things aren’t rosey is super important. As long as we love each other and enjoy life together, we’ll stay together. I’m hoping for forever.
No way in hell im taking care of my demon spawns alone
We try to be responsible and take eachother seriously.